Being a Catholic, specifically a Roman Catholic, entails a lot of responsibility when it comes to religious practices. As a religion with hundreds of years of tradition, the Roman Catholic has followed their rules and restrictions without exception. Those that have professed their deep affiliation with faith would usually follow the traditional practices of the religion up the last letter.
Luckily love, dating and relationship are not bad for this religion. Although sexual intimacy is not allowed before marriage, to go out on a date with someone is highly encouraged. This religion even encourages everyone for a healthy interaction because it is a must to start an attraction which might end up in marriage. Marriage is the only state where the Catholic Church allows sexual intimacy as the religion regards sex as solely for procreation.
A Catholic or not, your relationship will never be strained as long as the person you are dating is not trying to covert you. The Roman Catholic Church believes in ecumenism or their acknowledgement of other faith therefore; any religion or belief that you have, as long as it’s not destructive will basically be allowed and welcomed by the church. Young Roman Catholics today entertain the idea of inter-faith dating and some would even consider inter-faith marriage as their religion allows them to under certain circumstances.
Where to Look for a Catholic Date
If you are a Catholic or someone interested in dating a Catholic, there are certain places where you can look and might end up with a date.
If you’re looking for someone who is deeply religious, you should find yourself in a Catholic church often. Those that are deeply religious would usually be part of different church activities or groups. But aside from meeting someone in the church, there are a lot of Catholic activities that are not only based on the church. There are outreach programs and other civic activities that the church is usually a part of.
Another place to look of course is online. There are probably hundreds of websites geared towards Catholics. Interested users can sign up and meet other Catholics interested in finding their special someone online. There are probably hundreds of these types of website as Catholic dating websites is one of the fastest rising types of dating websites today. You should be able to find someone you would like, at least physically for now. Most of these websites though are only geared for Catholics so you might have to research more to find a site that’s preferably for Catholics but would accept sign-ups for other religions as well.
Those who are signing up in Catholic Dating websites are not really Catholics all the time. Anyone can just tell the website a made up name, address and other information just to get in and browse through the pages of persons who are very honest about themselves. Because of the ability of others to remain anonymous, there is always danger lurking in some places and would victim anyone who doesn’t observe any precaution.
One of the best ways to protect yourself as a Catholic in online dating websites is to ask questions that are usually geared for Catholics. You can ask your potential date his or parish community, the name of their priest and even their favorite saints if you think the person is very religious. Those who are abusing the website can be easily identified and stopped since they are not familiar with the things you talk about. As much as possible, prefer someone in the same parish or in the same area so you can look him or her up immediately to validate their identity as soon as possible.
If you are attracted to someone, it doesn’t really matter what their religious beliefs are. What’s important is that you’re open to their ideas and accept them for who they are. If you are a Catholic dating a non-catholic or the other way around, you can be at ease when the day comes in meeting with the family. Catholics are usually members of very tightly knitted families with close relationships even until they are adults. They treasure the family and often make their decisions on what’s best for the family.
Even a deeply religious family of Catholics would be accommodating to non-Catholics. They believe in diversity of religious practices and wouldn’t do anything to offend other people of different religion. Of course there are other families who are a little bit strict when it comes to inter-faith relationship but since there is no law in their religion telling them otherwise, they will let it go and eventually understand your religion. In your end, you should also respect their beliefs and never impose anything. As much as they want to respect your personal beliefs, they are also expecting the same respect and tolerance they gave you.
A Glimpse of a Great Tradition
If you are a non-Catholic, it’s highly recommended that you be a part of some of their church activities. Your date might have an idea that it’s a great date if you start activities with a mass. That usually happens for the deeply religious and you might think that it’s a little weird and imposing. But since you are interested in the person, you have to deal with this. On the other hand, treat it as a learning experience. Deeply religious Catholics would usually show their faith to non-Catholics not because they want to covert you but only to show you their appreciation of their religion and its practices.
Dating Catholics on the other hand would probably show how religious they are or would ask a person to attend a mass as part of the date. Some would treat it as an awkward start but it’s not for those who are sharing the same faith and has the same dedication to the Catholic faith.
There are Catholics that are not really religious. But their religion has molded their culture that they appreciate their religion and follow the celebrations although they are not active in it. If you happen to date this type of Catholic show your respect to the religion as he or she would be greatly affected by an insensitive remark towards the Catholic faith.